It’s common instinct to point a finger when things go wrong. When it doesn’t work out, we’re quick to look for an excuse. We prefer to label some uncontrollable force as the deciding factor. We play the blame game. It’s much easier to sleep at night when you’ve consciously decided something wasn’t your fault. Because it couldn’t have been your fault, right? You’re not to blame; how could you be? You did nothing wrong. What if, instead, we held ourselves accountable? Perhaps admitting that you could have done something different, something better, is the best medicine. When you point one finger, there are three pointing back at you.
“Realize that if you have time to whine and complain about something then you have the time to do something about it.” – A. D’Angelo
This is no different then a child refusing to clean their room. They throw a temper tantrum because now the mother is scolding them, causing them to get even more upset. The mom says “in all this time complaining, you could have already cleaned your room”. Direct your attention and your energy towards resolving an issue and towards improving on a blemish.
“You don’t always get what you wish for, you get what you work for.” – Unknown
Tony Robbins says that “rewards come in action, not in discussion”, and I think that gives another perspective on this conceptually basic quote. We can wish for anything we want, no matter how lavish an luxurious it may be. But without taking action, they will all remain wishes. And we are the only ones who can change that. Don’t wish you were as rich as this guy, as pretty as that girl, as funny as him, as famous as her. Don’t think they’re lucky to have it better than you; HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE and be proactive, not reactive.
“Take your life in your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: no one is to blame.” – Erica Jong
It’s not a surprise that some people perform best with their backs against the wall. A team facing elimination often plays better than when it was an even playing field. With nothing left to lose, there’s only ground to gain. When there’s nobody to blame but yourself, THAT is when you’ll see the most progress.
“If you haven’t the strength to impose your own terms upon life, you must accept the terms it offers you.” – T.S. Eliot
The opportunity is daunting, but simple in nature. Either you dictate your life or be forced to live the life chosen for you. Don’t like something about yourself? Impose a change or continue to resent yourself. If you don’t make as much money as you think you deserve, then buckle down and work harder; the results and rewards will come.
Stop making excuses and blaming exterior factors on YOUR troubles. Hold yourself to a high standard, and don’t feel sorry for yourself because nobody else will feel sorry for you. The only one to blame is YOURSELF. And when this realization smacks you in the face, that’s when you’ll make a change for the betterment of YOU. Later on down the road when you get what you’ve worked for, the only one reaping the benefits is YOU; the blame game will cease to exist because you’ve taken over the driver’s seat.